The table that we show you above contains some examples of how simply by changing the language , you express the same, in short, ask the child not to do something or tell him that we cannot do something.
If we use NO constantly like: I can’t play with you, you can’t go to the park, don’t take the tablet or don’t hit your brother ; the message is negative and we are also abusing NO and with this we run the risk of being ignored.
You can save the NO for something really important , something that poses a danger to your child, like crossing the street without holding hands, or leaning out of the window and for the rest of the things use positive formulas. In this way, we can change the message by telling them, what do you think if we play after making the beds; Today instead of going to the park, we are going to organize a very fun game at home; when you finish your tasks, you can take the tablet; If you hit your brother, he won’t want to play with you.
It is not a question of not denying the child things, in fact parents must do it to apply discipline, impose rules, reinforce the character of the child, in short, to educate him. However, when we say it 20 times, it loses all meaning. To say no to children in a positive way we can:
1 – Suggest something else you can do
If we can’t go to the park, we can cook at home, play board games , paint …
2 – Postpone the request until you do
If at that time you can not carry out what you want or we are busy, we can leave it for another time, but we must remember to comply.
3 – Explain what will happen if he does what he wants.
If he hits his brother, if he breaks the toys , if he looks out the window, there may be consequences, we must explain them.
4 – Clarify the rules
Before the time comes to say no to sweets, no to jumping puddles or not to watch more television, we have to tell them what rules we have at home and why. In this way, they will anticipate the answer.
5 – Use humor
With good humor, everything is overcome and corrected. Using humor in difficult situations lighten them up and everything stays better.…